When Your New Hairstyle Doesn’t Turn Out As Planned

Hairstyle gone wrong? What to do and how to love it! It is as easy as styling your new haircut, making a few tweaks to have it fit your head. www.suzigabs.com

We have all had it happen.  You look at picture after picture, you finally pick one, you work up the nerve, and off you go to see your hair stylist.  Your excited for your new hairstyle and when it’s all done, you freak out and wonder what in the world have you done.

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It looks nothing like the picture and…You.  Hate.  It.

There is nothing wrong with the cut, technical wise.  It’s exactly like the picture.  So why doesn’t it look like it does on the girl in the picture?

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Hairstyle gone wrong? What to do and how to love it!

THIS. JUST. HAPPENED. TO. ME.

I have been a hairstylist for 17 years, so yes, it even happens to those of us that should know better (rolling my eyes and shaking my head in disbelief).  I knew going from long hair to super short was going to have a shock factor and take awhile to get used to, no matter how prepared I thought I was.

My reasons for cutting it all off had mainly to do with comfort.  Menopause is a horrible, cruel joke (raise your hand if you feel me) and long hair makes hot flashes totally unbearable.  When one would hit, it felt like my head was 150 degrees and had steam coming from it.  I was also tired of just throwing it up in a messy bun and never wanting to fix it to look nice.

I want to start off by saying that there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with the cut, it is exactly like the picture and technically correct in every way.  So what went wrong?

Reasons Why My New Hairstyle Didn’t Turn Out As Expected

I wanted to look 20 years younger and 40 pounds lighter, isn’t that what we all want?  I mean seriously, 17 years ago I had this same haircut and it looked great on me.  On my 33 year old, 133 pound self.  As the years passed gravity took over and my oval face is now more of a squoval and my skin no longer has that youthful elasticity it once had.  It was not a realistic expectation.

My hair is unreasonably thick.  The texture is coarse and it has wave that showed up when I became pre-menopausal.  Hormones are such a pesky business.  The wave prevents me from tucking it behind my ears like I want to and it doesn’t lay as smooth as the hairstyle in the picture.  She appears to have thick hair, but her texture is not nearly as coarse as mine.

Her hair is blonde, mine is dark brown.  The light plays off her hair much better than it does mine and gives it dimension, making it look lighter and a lot softer than my hair could ever be.


Living With the New Hairstyle

So, it’s done.  There is no getting the hair back.  Now what?

I texted my stylist (we have known each other for years and are good friends) and she came over to my house and did a little tweaking to the cut to customize it to my head (and more to my liking).

  • Don’t be afraid to call your stylist and ask that the same be done for you (although you will most likely have to go back into the salon unless she is one of your BFF’s). It is your hair and you need to be able to work with it and be able to love it.

I have been experimenting with different ways of styling it.  The first few days I tried to force it to part a certain way, tuck behind my ears, and lay flat.  I have put so much product in it I am surprised it comes out when I shampoo it.  When I blow dried it, it got HUGE.  So I am letting it air dry.  Today I let it have it’s way and lay how it wanted to.  It wasn’t bad and I actually was told it looked cute.  It was certainly less stressful and I wasn’t constantly running my fingers through it, trying to force it to behave.

  • Look for more pictures of your haircut styled different ways and try them out until you find one or two or more that you like.
  • Try blow drying if you usually don’t.  Let it air dry if you usually blow dry.
  • Try different types of styling products (ask your stylist for recommendations of what to use) or just let it have it’s way and do what it wants to do.

I am doing my best not to continually look in the mirror.  I am still in shock over the new look and it will have to grow on me.  I have no doubt that it will, but until then I can’t let myself obsess over it.  I have to stop thinking about what it used to look like.  The hair is gone and it would take at least 2 years for it to grow back out to the length that it was.

  • Take a few days and morn what used to be and come to terms with what has happened.  Then, put on your big girl panties and make the best of it.  After all, it is only hair and it will grow back.
  • Accept compliments on your new hairstyle.   Put on a pair of funky socks (a friend of mine suggested this and it made me laugh when I wanted to cry), and go confidently out into the world and rock that new hairstyle!

 

Hairstyle gone wrong? What to do and how to love it!

 

Hairstyle gone wrong? What to do and how to love it!



Has this ever happened to you?  What did you do?  Come on, spill the beans in the comments below!!

Until next time,

Suzi

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30 Comments

  • Reply
    Pamela
    February 9, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    I love it. Look at your rocking a poncho and a sweet sassy haircut!

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      suzigabs2017
      February 9, 2018 at 7:08 pm

      Hahaha!! I love my ponchos!!! Thank you for the encouraging words 🙂

  • Reply
    Denise
    February 9, 2018 at 4:07 pm

    I love it! I think it looks stylish, sassy and fun! I understand getting over the shock factor but you look great.

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 9, 2018 at 7:07 pm

      Thank you Denise!! It has been a long 5 days, lol!!

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    Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond
    February 13, 2018 at 10:54 pm

    Hi Suzi I know exactly what you mean and just had it recently when I decided to go a cooler toned blonde. I hated it at first but it has grown on me. I think the short style looks fabulous on you and if you hair was quite long it would have been a shock to the system. Usually it is only ourselves that are so critical aren’t we? I’m sure everyone else loved it. Thanks for the tips as well and also for sharing at #midlifesharethelove party. See you next week!

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 1:39 am

      Thank you Sue! It is true that we are our own worse critics, lol! It is starting to grow on me and I am getting it under control a lot better than I did at first. I don’t know yet if I am going to keep it this short or let it grow…only time will tell. Thanks so much for hosting MLSTLP!!

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    Michele
    February 13, 2018 at 11:14 pm

    I think your hair looks cute! When you figure out how to cut hair so you look 20 years younger and 40 pounds lighter let me know! I try not to do too many radical changes with my hair. I grew is long and let it go curly when I left my full time job and I like the ease and naturalness of it.

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 1:40 am

      Thank you Michele!! If I could figure out how to that, I would be rich, lol!! Both long and short are easy to do, but short is definitely cooler 😉 Thanks so much for visiting!!

  • Reply
    Natalie
    February 14, 2018 at 12:44 am

    Hi Suzi, I’m visiting from Sue and Leanne’s MLSTL link. Your new hair style looks great on you! “Don’t worry, be happy” 🙂

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 1:42 am

      Awww, thank you Natalie!! This definitely caused me quite a bit of worry, until I realized there was nothing I could do about and might as well just own it! Thanks so much or stopping by 🙂

  • Reply
    Pam
    February 14, 2018 at 1:42 am

    Thank you for sharing. I think it looks great. I am looking to make a change, so your sharing has given some additional things to think about.

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 1:47 am

      Thanks Pam!! Here are a couple of more tips…put your hand over the face of the model in the picture and see if you still like the haircut, turn the picture upside down and see if you still like the color. Doing those things takes the focus off the model and makes you really think about wether you like it or just like how it looks on the model. I would love for you to share with us how it turns out once you do it!! Good luck!!

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    Christie Hawkes
    February 14, 2018 at 2:33 am

    I haven’t gotten brave enough to get a haircut I didn’t like, but that also means I’ve had basically the same haircut for 20 years. I did try bangs once, thinking they would cover my forehead wrinkles. Problem is I have a cowlick in the front and the bangs wouldn’t cover my forehead with any amount of coaxing or product. My hair also got wavy as I reached menopause, but in my case, it was a pleasant surprise. Now I just scrunch and blow dry. By the way, I agree with the other commenters–I like your hair. 🙂

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 4:48 pm

      I cut my bangs last year and I know better, lol!! Every time I do it I hate them. I am glad to know that I am not the only one who’s hair changed with menopause. It’s just crazy, I had stick straight hair my entire life then BAM! Only mine did have enough curl to scrunch, just enough to be annoying, lol!! Thank you so much for the compliment and for stopping by!

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    Jo Castro
    February 14, 2018 at 3:53 am

    I think your new hairstyle looks great! It’s always more of a worry to us than it appears to others I think because we have an image of how we ‘should’ look and others just look at the way we do look and accept us for that. Yes, I’ve had a few haircuts just before events which I’ve hated. Now I do things at least 3 weeks prior to something important coming up. Not long enough to rectify a major stuff-up, but at least long enough to make changes! Pinned this post to Short Harstyles.

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 4:52 pm

      You are so right Jo, we have this image of how we want to look and when it isn’t matching up with what we see in the mirror it can cause a minor meltdown, lol!! That is a good strategy to have, I have always talked clients out of a major change prior to a big event. Thank you for pinning and thank you for stopping by!!

  • Reply
    Debbie
    February 14, 2018 at 5:14 am

    Hi Suzi, I found you on Sue and Leanne’s midlife share the love link and have to say I love your new look. I know that probably doesn’t mean much as you’re the one who has to live with it, but from a complete outsider’s perspective it looks great on you. The shorter style must feel better than long hair when you get a hot flash and you can pretend to be a whole different person. That’s what I do when I get a different look, I pretend I’m someone else and usually try to have fun with it. You’re right to accept compliments gracefully. Lovely to meet you here 😊

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 4:54 pm

      That means the world to me Debbie, thank you so much for the compliment and kind words 🙂 It does feel a lot better and I am starting to like it more and more! Great to meet you and thank you so much for stopping by!!

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    Leanne
    February 14, 2018 at 6:11 am

    I actually really like the cut on you, but I know exactly what you mean about finding a hairstyle to suit and that looks good without too much fiddling and fussing. I’ve had the same version of my haircut for at least 10 years, I grow it a bit longer or get it cut a bit shorter, but ultimately it ends up pretty much the same – playing it safe for now but who knows what the future holds – I haven’t had the hot head flashes (yet!) Thanks so much for linking up with us at #MLSTL – I’ve shared this on my SM x

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 5:01 pm

      Thank you Leanne!! I used to change my hair all the time, the curse of being a hairdresser. I had my hair long for the last 7 years, different colors, but always long. I grew up with a stepmom that always had my hair cut short (remember the Dorothy Hamill haircut? Yep, I had that!) Once I finally started letting it grow I really liked how easy it was to style (or not style). I hope you never have these head hot flashes, they start at the neck and slowly move up, it’s awful!! But I am trying an essential oil and it is doing wonders!! Thanks for the great party!!

  • Reply
    Linda Barnby | Hello Sweet Life
    February 14, 2018 at 7:28 am

    I love your new hairstyle! I think it accomplished you looking younger for sure! Very stylish.

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 5:02 pm

      Awww, thank you Linda!! I could just hug you 🙂 Thanks so much for stopping by!!

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    Jill
    February 14, 2018 at 8:57 am

    I really like it. Funny I’ve been thinking of getting a crop but not made the jump yet! You look great!! JIll

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 5:05 pm

      Thank you Jill!! I hope I haven’t scared you away from doing it! Sometimes change is good, and I am really starting to love this new hair cut. Thanks so much for stopping by!!

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    Michele Morin
    February 14, 2018 at 11:11 am

    I’m a real fan of short hair, but once I made the mistake of actually saying the word “short” to the wrong stylist and walked out of her shop nearly bald. I was in college, so of course I over reacted!
    I love your hair — and your poncho!

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 5:12 pm

      Thanks Michele!! Oh heavens!! I would have had a meltdown, especially at that age. I have quite a few ponchos, I find that they hide a lot of my middle age spread, lol!! Thank you so much for stopping by!!

  • Reply
    Victoria
    February 14, 2018 at 2:33 pm

    I love your hair, of course, I love short hair. And as you said it is only hair and will grow back. Daughter wears her hair long and I am always after her to cut it off. lol

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 5:14 pm

      Thank you Victoria!! Yes it will grow back. Don’t show her my post or she will never do it, lol!!! Thank you for stopping by!!

  • Reply
    Mimi
    February 14, 2018 at 3:45 pm

    You look fabulous! Thank you for sharing your insight – we have all been there!
    Best wishes, Mimi
    https://inmyprimetime.blogspot.com

    • Reply
      suzigabs2017
      February 14, 2018 at 5:15 pm

      Awww, thank you Mimi!! Thank you for stopping by!!

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