Is your spouse your best friend? If he/she isn’t, they should be! This is the one person (after your parents, of course) that has vowed to love you no matter what. Come hell or high water.
I met my husband 15 years ago. I will confess that he is not my first husband, or even my second. I know, I know, but it is what it is (chalk it up to a fool hardy youth and a lack of self confidence). We certainly didn’t start out as best friends, but we had a connection.
He was 37 and I was 35 when we met. We both had children and…baggage, if you know what I mean. We powered through adolescence and the teenage years (no easy feat), ex-spouses, and learned how to trust each other.
When did I realize he was my best friend? Well, our son (we consider all three kids ours) graduated high school, he got married and we helped move them to Texas so he could go to school. We traveled down pulling a trailer with all their worldly belongings and arrived at the apartment complex where they were going to live.
We had planned on staying for just a few days to help them get settled, but after unloading the trailer I was taking a breather outside when it hit me that I was going to be leaving my baby here…in Texas…hundreds of miles from home. Hundreds of miles from me.
I started crying and didn’t think I was going to ever be able to stop. Of course, I didn’t let my son see me cry, but my husband wasn’t so lucky (and I am an ugly crier) he was witness to full blown sobbing. It was horrible. What should have only been a few days turned into a week (without me having to ask) with me having to find places to cry so no one would see me. Bless his heart, the poor man slept on the floor, we both did for a week.
Finally, we had to leave. We had to get back home to work and to our other 2 kiddos. So we loaded back up in the truck and drove away, leaving my baby behind. I cried the entire way home. I can’t believe I had that many tears in me. This man, my husband, drove home with a sobbing passenger and never said a word. He listened to me and never once told me how ridiculous I was being or that my baby had to grow up some time. He was my rock and on that trip became my best friend.
I am crying now just thinking about it.
Your spouse should be your best friend…
- The one you tell all your secrets and dreams to. Who better to dream with than the one you are spending your life with?
- The one who sees you at your worst and loves you anyway. Wether your sick, ugly crying, or not wearing any makeup, your spouse is the one person that won’t judge.
- The one that supports you and has your back. Your spouse will support all your crazy ideas (ask me how I know this) and tell you what is reasonable and what isn’t and defend you no matter what.
- The one that tells you when you’re wrong. Wether you want to hear it or not.
- The one that holds you accountable. Someone has to keep you on the straight and narrow.
- The one that makes you laugh. Even at yourself.
- The one that loves you and cherishes you forever. Because we all deserve someone to be that person for us.
Is your spouse your best friend? Tell me about them in the comments below, I would love to hear all about it!! Let’s start the conversation!!