Why Your Spouse Should Be Your Best Friend

My husband is my best friend, the one person I can count on no matter what.

Is your spouse your best friend?  If he/she isn’t, they should be!  This is the one person (after your parents, of course) that has vowed to love you no matter what.  Come hell or high water.

I met my husband 15 years ago.  I will confess that he is not my first husband, or even my second.  I know, I know, but it is what it is (chalk it up to a fool hardy youth and a lack of self confidence).  We certainly didn’t start out as best friends, but we had a connection.

He was 37 and I was 35 when we met. We both had children and…baggage, if you know what I mean.  We powered through adolescence and the teenage years (no easy feat), ex-spouses, and learned how to trust each other.

When did I realize he was my best friend?  Well, our son (we consider all three kids ours) graduated high school, he got married and we helped move them to Texas so he could go to school.  We traveled down pulling a trailer with all their worldly belongings and arrived at the apartment complex where they were going to live.

We had planned on staying for just a few days to help them get settled, but after unloading the trailer I was taking a breather outside when it hit me that I was going to be leaving my baby here…in Texas…hundreds of miles from home.  Hundreds of miles from me.

I started crying and didn’t think I was going to ever be able to stop.  Of course, I didn’t let my son see me cry, but my husband wasn’t so lucky (and I am an ugly crier) he was witness to full blown sobbing.  It was horrible.  What should have only been a few days turned into a week (without me having to ask) with me having to find places to cry so no one would see me. Bless his heart, the poor man slept on the floor, we both did for a week.

Finally, we had to leave.  We had to get back home to work and to our other 2 kiddos.  So we loaded back up in the truck and drove away, leaving my baby behind.  I cried the entire way home.  I can’t believe I had that many tears in me.  This man, my husband, drove home with a sobbing passenger and never said a word.  He listened to me and never once told me how ridiculous I was being or that my baby had to grow up some time.  He was my rock and on that trip became my best friend.

I am crying now just thinking about it.

Your spouse should be your best friend…

  • The one you tell all your secrets and dreams to.  Who better to dream with than the one you are spending your life with?
  • The one who sees you at your worst and loves you anyway.  Wether your sick, ugly crying, or not wearing any makeup, your spouse is the one person that won’t judge.
  • The one that supports you and has your back.  Your spouse will support all your crazy ideas (ask me how I know this) and tell you what is reasonable and what isn’t and defend you no matter what.
  • The one that tells you when you’re wrong.  Wether you want to hear it or not.
  • The one that holds you accountable.  Someone has to keep you on the straight and narrow.
  • The one that makes you laugh.  Even at yourself.
  • The one that loves you and cherishes you forever.  Because we all deserve someone to be that person for us.

Is your spouse your best friend?  Tell me about them in the comments below, I would love to hear all about it!!  Let’s start the conversation!!




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    January 5, 2018 at 2:57 pm

    Susanne, I absolutely love this post. My hubby is now my best friend, but it hasn’t always been that way- though I wish it was. Im so thankful for his love and grace – he is by far the most patient person I know and I’m grateful to call him mine.😊

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      January 5, 2018 at 5:17 pm

      I am so glad to hear this Sarah! I think we grow into this, it doesn’t happen right away. My hubby has the patience of a saint! LOL!! Thank you so much for reading 🙂

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    Toni | Small Home Soul
    January 5, 2018 at 6:34 pm

    Oh Suzi, what a great topic! Your husband is wonderful to support you (and sleep on the floor) during one of a momma’s most difficult times. That’s true love!

    I am so happy to say that my hubby is my best friend. But it was a long time coming and the early years of marriage can be difficult difficult finding a balance and rhythm. But we have grown and matured so much in our nearly 24 years together that it feels so great to know he is my best friend, and I am his.

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      January 6, 2018 at 1:37 am

      I am so glad you have him Toni! I think as we get older we are not so self involved and having and loving that one special person becomes more important. You are absolutely right, it is about balance and rhythm. 🙂

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    January 5, 2018 at 7:10 pm

    My husband is my best friend (he is not my first husband). I give him kudos for always listening, not judging and just loving me. No one I would rather just sit and be with

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      January 6, 2018 at 1:33 am

      That is exactly how I feel Michelle! I am so glad you found him 🙂

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    January 6, 2018 at 7:23 pm

    oh my God, you have to go back and get him! lol. I am crying like a baby.
    How sweet of your husband to just be there when you needed him. You know it is this kind of husband that should be writing the self-help book on how to be a great husband. And now the fu-fu actors and politicians. Real husbands with real hearts. Happy New Blogging!

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      January 7, 2018 at 1:19 am

      He has a heart bigger than anyone I know!! This was 12 years ago and they didn’t stay in Texas for long, another hurricane headed their way and they hightailed it home to our little flyover state. Thank goodness, talking to him on the phone while he was there would start me crying all over again each time. I am proud to report that he is now almost 31, 3 children, and moving up the ranks in upper management in a wire manufacturing company and lives just 4 miles away. Thank goodness 🙂

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    January 31, 2018 at 2:51 am

    My husband, Paul, is definitely my best friend. We’ve been married for 34 years and there is no one that I would rather spend time with, laugh with and share life with!

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      February 1, 2018 at 1:39 am

      Congratulations of 34 years! I feel exactly the same about mine!

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    January 31, 2018 at 3:26 am

    Agreed 100%!! Thank you for sharing this!

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      February 1, 2018 at 1:40 am

      Hi Donna! Thanks so much for stopping by 🙂

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    Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond
    January 31, 2018 at 3:48 am

    My husband and I were friends before we became romantically involved. It is wonderful to share a life with someone who you can confide in and know always has your back and vice versa. Thank you for sharing your lovely post with us and I welcome you to the first Midlife Share the Love Party. I hope to see you at next week’s link up. #MSTL #midlifesharethelove

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      February 1, 2018 at 1:42 am

      Hi Sue! Thank you for starting the party, I think it is wonderful!! It is so great to know so many women feel the same way about their husbands as I do!

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    January 31, 2018 at 6:01 am

    I completely agree – I’ve been married to my husband for 35 years and we know each other inside out and I know that we have each others’ backs. One big thing I practice is never speaking about him behind his back unless it’s something kind or complimentary. I definitely believe that your partner shouldn’t be your ONLY friend – we need to have others for variety and interest – but he should definitely be your closest friend. Thanks so much for sharing your post at #MLSTL – I’ve shared it on my social media x

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      February 1, 2018 at 1:44 am

      I agree Leanne, not the only friend but the closest. I do the same as you, I only speak of him in the most complimentary way to others. And mostly it is the truth 😉 Thank you so much for sharing and hosting this great party!!

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    January 31, 2018 at 7:47 am

    Definitely my husband and I are best friends and we are so lucky that we enjoy spending time with each other … more so than anyone. So glad you found your husband, lover and best friend 🙂

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      February 1, 2018 at 1:45 am

      Thank you Jo, I am glad you did too! It definitely makes living life at 50 and beyond and in an empty nest much more enjoyable!

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    Denyse Whelan
    January 31, 2018 at 8:17 am

    I sure have no argument here. We have been married for 47 years and are each other’s best friends. Warm wishes from Australia. Denyse

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      February 1, 2018 at 1:46 am

      Congratulations on 47 years Denyse!!! And I am so jealous that you live in Australia, it is on my dream list of places to visit!!

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    January 31, 2018 at 10:37 am

    I totally agree. I am lucky enough to call my husband my best friend. Our oldest daughter just moved out,(something we were both ready for and supportive of…)but I still cried like a baby over it. I too am an “ugly crier”. He was right beside me, and I snotted all over myself and probably him too. Thanks for sharing this!

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      February 1, 2018 at 1:51 am

      Oh Cherie, bless your heart! I am so glad he was there, it is so hard letting them go no matter how much you prepare yourself. Thank you for stopping and sharing your story with me!!

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    shirley corder
    January 31, 2018 at 10:48 am

    Thanks for this, Suzi. Yes, I married my best friend. I can confidently say our marriage wouldn’t have lasted if he hadn’t been my best friend, ready to stick with me through thick and thin. A few months ago we celebrated our 50th Wedding Anniversary, and I can honestly say we’re even better friends now than 50 years ago! Answers to Questions I wouldn’t have Thought to Ask~#SYW

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      February 1, 2018 at 1:54 am

      Shirley that is amazing!! 50 years together is a wonderful achievement and I am so glad to hear you are even better friends now 🙂

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